The Dark Side of Instant Gratification: Are You Self-Sabotaging?

Patience and persistent action are the true keys to success, not instant gratification or unrealistic expectations. Our proximity to breakthroughs is often closer than we realize, but giving up prematurely prevents us from ever discovering how close we truly were.

In this episode, you'll learn: 

1. Understanding proximity is crucial - you never know how close you are to meeting the person or opportunity that will change everything
2. Self-sabotage often happens when our timeline expectations don't match reality
3. Managing expectations prevents disappointment and abandonment of worthwhile goals
4. Good things come to those who execute intentional actions consistently while remaining patient
5. Seeds planted need sufficient time to take root before growing into something substantial

The responsibility for improving your life rests squarely on your shoulders. As you go through life day to day, think about what you want your story to say.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction to Patience and Destiny
• 0:32 Understanding Proximity and Momentum
• 1:22 Self-Sabotage and Managing Expectations
• 2:17 You Are the Author of Your Story
• 3:35 Final Thoughts on Personal Responsibility

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

But word to Patman, fate is saying your destiny out loud every day, because words ain't enough, for they could start something great and, in the end, divine. Timing could never be late. So the detriments of expecting instant gratification what are some of the pitfalls? Well, I thought you'd never ask. For starters, you never really know how close you are to the finish line, which is dangerous when you really take the time to think about it, and that's why awareness is extremely important, so you don't miss out on the fruits of your labor. So we're going to explore this idea through two lenses proximity and momentum. Stay with me. I promise this can make sense in a bit.

Speaker 1: 0:34

Proximity is such a strange phenomenon because the idea itself is very abstract. It's definitely not something that's easily identifiable and by time you notice what's happening, it's already in motion and it's usually in hindsight, and I guess that's where they say hindsight is 2020. So I think a good way to frame it is that saying that goes you never know when you're gonna meet that person that's gonna change your life for the rest of your life. You could be walking down a random corridor anywhere to a business, meeting a function, to a party, and that person could be standing right next to you. Now, in that instant you don't know how close you are, you don't understand the proximity to the opportunity that you're seeking. But once you make that introduction and things are underway, it's like, oh, this is actually the person I was looking for. So that's why it's such a strange phenomenon, and a personal example of that happening to me is this program that I did at my community college led to the internship that led to the full-time job when I graduated Now. At the time I didn't understand what was happening, but once things got in motion I could see the path clear. So that's why I say you never really know how close you are to the finish line, the goal or the objective. So you have to be very mindful about stopping or slowing down your momentum. And just in case you were still unclear about anything that I just said, I think this picture articulates the idea perfectly and I know we've all seen this picture before, so it should definitely resonate. This is a visual representation of what it looks like when you start prematurely from pursuing your goals. The ambiguity of your proximity is the main danger in this situation because, like I said, you never really know how close you are. That's why managing your expectations is pivotal. Just imagine you expect the journey to take five months when in actuality, it takes a year. So when you get to month seven, you decide to stop because it didn't meet your expectations, and that's a sure way to self-sabotage. That's exactly what you identify as self-sabotage. This is October 2024.

Speaker 1: 2:18

I had this idea for this podcast at the beginning of 2023. Not knowing how to write scripts, edit videos, record I beginning of 2023. Not knowing how to write scripts, edit videos, record. I didn't even have any equipment so I could tell you firsthand if I did not manage my expectations effectively. This podcast would have simply been an idea, because after month five, I was like man, this is way more work than I thought it was.

Speaker 1: 2:36

They say good things come to those who wait. I prefer to say good things come to those who execute intentional actions on a continuous basis while staying patient. Staying patient is major key because the seeds you planted need time to take root. You don't plant a tree in your backyard, water it for a week and expect it to shoot up. That's not realistic expectations and life doesn't work like that. Well, it does in some instances, but not often enough for it to be your standard of expectation.

Speaker 1: 3:02

When it comes easy, you tend not to cherish it as much. And bear in mind if it was easy, everybody would be doing it, and I don't know about you, but I'm not trying to do what everyone else is doing. That's not what I'm in it for. I have zero intentions of following the crowd. I always wanted to be myself. I just didn't know it. So now I take pride in relishing in my individuality. I'm the only one capable of getting this job done. I've never seen someone be a better version of me, and that's exactly how you should feel as well. Trust me, try it. You won't regret it.

Speaker 1: 3:31

This is a sidebar, but I think it's worth being mentioned. You are the most important component in improving your life. Nobody else could do it for you. People can assist you along the way, but the responsibility is yours, and assuming that responsibility gives you an immense amount of hope, because you get to decide how the story goes. You are the author of your own life story, so please stop allowing other people to write your script. You've been writing your story since you took your first breath. As you go through your life day to day, the thing to think about is what do you want your story to say?